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Pay Attention To Self-Talk For a Better Attitude

Monitor the Words you Speak to Yourself.

Would you say that you are aware of your self-talk habits? Self-talk, We all do it, so there is nothing to be embarrassed about. And you may never say anything out loud, but you can hear yourself talking in your mind. And most likely, you have developed patterns and habits that play automatically for the appropriate situations. You make a mistake and immediately hear ” you idiot” or “stupid” in your mind. You may even be much harder on yourself than that to where you get worked up and put yourself down.

While it is good to expect the best from ourselves, no one is perfect, and we all mess up.

Going off on yourself does little to help.

“The greatest power God gave us is the power to choose. We have the opportunity to choose whether we’re going to act or procrastinate, believe or doubt, pray or curse, help or heal. We also choose whether we’re going to be happy or whether we’re going to be sad.”

Lou Holtz (former head coach of the ND fighting Irish)

Talking to yourself the wrong way can form nasty habits resulting in bursts of anger or make you feel ultimately defeated. Self-talk can be a part of good character or weigh us down depending on if you and I are speaking in line with reality and encouraging ourselves or doing the opposite. Suppose you allow your emotions to fuel constant negative words and criticisms that can discourage you down, hold you back, and give you a sour attitude? How will you climb out of that unless you change the way you think and speak to yourself?

How do you address yourself when you mess up and blow it? When you make a big mistake or fail at something? Do you rip and belittle yourself in your mind or under your breath? Have you ever mumbled to yourself the words “stupid,” or I’m an idiot?”

The last thing you want to do is put Yourself down.

Especially during big emotional moments. I had formed some bad habits with this, and while I sometimes said it almost like a joke and sarcastically, what good did it ever do for me?

  • I want to tell you a secret. It is just as easy to say something positive under your breath or in your mind whenever things do not go your way as saying something negative. It all comes down to the habits we create.

If you are not used to speaking to yourself in positive, constructive ways, you may feel a little awkward at first. Also, to change and reap the benefits, you have to keep at it and form a new habit.


“Life is 10 percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you respond to it.”

Lou Holtz

Years of negative self-talk create patterns of thought we may not be aware of. 

Thanks to our amazing subconscious minds, which take over while our minds wander, it will take some work and effort to change things. Have you ever driven someplace, and when you arrived, you did not remember driving there? This is because your conscious mind was focused on something else, while your subconscious mind already knew how to get where you needed to go.

You were aware that you were driving, but that is not where your mind was focused.

That is how powerful God has designed the human mind to be and to work.

The first step will be to monitor your self-talk for a few days and think about what you are saying. Then, determine how often or under what circumstances you say specific things. And then how those situations usually end up. A bad attitude always has some effect on the one who has it. And in many cases, it affects any other people who are around.

You may discover that you have been defeating yourself in some areas where you have struggled. The speed at which all this happens is instant. So you may not catch it every time, but it would be worth your while to start trying.

Having a good attitude is important and keeping our minds and thoughts free from self-abuse only makes sense.

“I believe your attitude is the most important choice you can make.”

Lou Holtz

Scripture tells us to bring every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.

That means that the thoughts we think about are important and will determine what we say and do. Therefore, accepting thoughts that are not accurate and then using them on ourselves makes little sense. We may expect and get criticism from everyone else at times. Someone needs to be speaking faith and encouragement to us, and it starts with what we think and what we say to ourselves.

The more time we spend reading God’s word and His truth, the better our thoughts will become. And as our minds and thoughts improve, our self-talk will reflect that as well. You may laugh at this, but it works. The next time you make a big mistake, instead of all the negative words and thoughts, say to yourself (without being sarcastic), “you are smart and competent.” I do not recommend yelling this out to your boss or anything if you just lost a big contract or missed a deadline.

  • You may develop something better in your life that you can use than my suggestions.
  • But take a minute and think of replacing those negative, self-defeating words and thoughts you say to yourself.
  • Replace them with something that gives you inspiration, confidence, and hope.

Just start speaking or thinking the exact opposite of what you have been thinking and saying, and you will most likely have the ideal words for each situation.

Self-Talk, fake it `till you make it.

I have personally experienced times in my life where no one supported or seemed to care if I lived or died. Not a great feeling and one that many who experience never recover from. I, however, have such a legacy in Christ and the example of two exceptional people who have shown great character and strength. Therefore, I cannot live in pity or give up. Jesus never gives us an example of giving up or thinking we mean nothing, even if the entire world seems to.

Do you still struggle with self-worth? Read my blog on this subject here; Find Out What You Are Worth.

Life is not easy, and anyone who thinks so lives in a bubble of irrational thinking. Those pushing for communism fall into this category. Sure, equality sounds great, but the reality is that in practicality, those who push it on society destroy the very people they claim to be helping. There is nothing fair nor equal in all of nature, yet those who think they can change reality ignore science, the world, human nature, and our Creator, pretend that life is this way. Most of all, they overestimate the goodness of man, ignoring sin and corruption.

  • You could say or think nothing, but that is not likely, and having something to put in place of the bad habit makes forming a new one much more likely.

Speak up and speak the truth to yourself and see how much your life can change for the better. But, unfortunately, self-talk may be one of those areas in life we need to keep faking until we make it.

8 ” Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think on these things. “

Philippians 4:8

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